GOOD FRIENDS REMAIN FRIENDS

Just felt like sharing with you some of my latest dealings, gleanings, thoughts and opinions.

Have you actually noticed that one of the best relationship to have is FRIENDSHIP?

You know it is possible to be married and not be friends with your spouse? Actually that's like living in hell!

Also, it is possible to have kids, brothers, sisters or parents, and not be friends with them as well, just like we said of Spouses. You know intimacy is vague in such relationships and there are massive limitations.

We need to get deeper and become friends rather than just being related.

Actually FRIENDSHIP is one of the best gifts we could leverage on at certain points of our lives, yet friendship is not cheap!

Friendship is actually 'Friend + ship'. It carries you when the storms come and the winds blow tempestuously at you. Our friends are a reflection of what we truly are and the impacts we have made over the years on this global soil that we can only live on once. No matter how great you are, at some points you will need the ship of friends (friendship), to help you land on the shores of success. There is a saying that says 

"If you want to walk fast, walk alone but if you want to walk far, do not walk alone".

As rare as it may sound, the greatest love people can show, is to put their lives on the line for their friends. That brings us to the true test of Friendship as seen in the New Testament Concept° which is - Unlimited Sacrifice.

How much can you truly give up for friends?

Actually, Friendship is not CHEAP. 

"Friends come and friends go but a true friend sticks to you like family"^

Friendship is costly!

However, I agree that such Loyalty is not necessarily demanded but COMMANDED/RECIPROCATED. It is an involuntary response, that does not need coercion.

Just like a true leader doesn't need to coerce followership, emphatically demand loyalty or remind followers consistently that (s)he is the leader. In the same vein I feel Loyalty is EARNED and not necessarily demanded.

Friendship commands influence and it is a vital tool in the art of INFLUENCE!

Two things that I learnt are very crucial for INFLUENCE/FRIENDSHIP: 1. Emotional Intelligence and 2. Emotional Investments

Emotional Intelligence is required for friendship.It simply means touching the heart before asking for the hand of the person for help.

"Touch the Heart and you will get the hands".

Emotional Investment on the other hand is- Sacrificing into the Emotional Bank Account of another.

Investing in a friend demands your:

TIME

ENERGY

EMOTIONS

PATIENCE

RESOURCES

...

Nothing influences like friendship.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

It pays off to invest in friendship, to invest in people without necessarily demanding a kick back.

Nobody loses in true friendship.

Obviously it was David's valiant act and readiness to die for his nation, when he faced Goliath that must have made people go out to support him at the risk of their lives. When he was seemingly exiled as a threat to the Saul Kish dynasty in the Middle East before their modern civilization.

As a boss you need to realize that to get optimum efficiency or productivity from your staff, you should become their FRIEND! When you do, they will give you their lives!

As Leaders, managers, bosses, friends, ...we need to genuinely be interested in others, feel their pains, share in their grief, care about their personal goals/visions, give them opportunity to see a brighter future, do not tie people to yourselves as if they "owe" you, never manipulate people, do not allow them feel 'used', always create an affirmative environment wherein they can thrive, most especially let them trust you that you CARE not because you want to "use" them but because you love them!

I believe that the dynamics of this influence can make workers, or friends stick to you like a family.

Friends not Servants that's what the New Covenant* exemplifies, that RIGID caste system of Boss-Servant sometimes creates rancor and breeds suspicion of EXPLOITATION! 

If you want to retain relationships invest emotionally in people/friends. This will make it almost impossible to loose even your staff, allies, support, ...

Hmmmm! This is personal, when I call you my friend, it is really costly!

I want to use this medium to appreciate every one who had been my friend for the past years, and that includes you, yes YOU!

I cherish you greatly!

Let's hang out on twitter.com/mosesevivie and other social media platforms...

Love ya!

 

|Ref: °John 15:13 ERV ^Prov 18:24 *John 15:15|