... Ever Had This kinda LUNCH DATE?
Let me share with you a story I read... about fish and chips, well sort of- a true story.
A young man and his girlfriend walked onto the terrace of a cafe... They were apparently on a date. They seemed culturally intimidated by their context, a tad nervous. (The cafe was upscale).
They were fidgety, like someone afraid of the financial repercussions of a menu.
The cafe was an aspirational challenge for the boy, but you know how we like to impress girls.
The cafe has two menus: a cake and pastry menu, and a light meal menu, you know, burger, chips etc.
The waiter presented both menus to the couple, then withdrew to give space for rumination.
The guy stared at the menu in an important manner. The girl was less confident.
You and I know the guy's mannerism is a responsorial shoring up of self assurance.
He was bravely familiarising with gastronomical depth, not sure he hadn't taken on more than he could chew.
You know how you pray the menu is what you can afford? And your head becomes a calculator and estimator?
And you start praying the girl doesn't get inspired towards certain items on the menu?
You do worst case scenario calculation- possibility of doing without food in order to cover the cost.
Well, the waiter came back to take the order and the young man decided to order on behalf of both of them.
To be fair, the girl didn't seem to have cognitive resonance with the menu.
We'll have fries and chips," the young man ordered with synthetic confidence. The waiter was a bit confused.
The young woman lent support, borrowing nervous confidence from the ether: "Fries for him, chips for me."
The waiter was kindly amused. He politely explained that fries and chips are one and the same. Even I was embarrased.
This is a classic case of not being confident enough to say, "I don't know, I need help!"
If you don't know the way ask for directions.
There's nothing wrong in asking the waiter questions, seeking guidance. If you don't know, you don't know!
Here were two people pretending to be cultural aficionados, yet both knew they were lying to each other.
He could have managed the date better:
"Hey Molly, I'll like to impress you...want to take you to this cafe. It looks expensive. Never been there before.
If I can't afford the fare we'll do the dishes!" would have been a redemptive starter joke.
"Molly can you make sense of the menu? I can't! Let's ask the waiter!"
"Waiter, what's the most expensive cheap item on this menu a young man can impress a beautiful lady with?"
I'm just saying BE YOURSELF! BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR OWN SKIN!
You can't go through life pretending to be what or who you're not, even emulating false values...
I hear a lot of talk about gaining street cred...Maximum respect!
There's nothing wrong with street cred. It all just depends on which street.
There's Wall Street. There's also Kirikiri Road, you know Sing Sing!
Jesus spoke about street cred: Straight Way vs. Broad Street: “Don’t look for shortcuts..." he said. Then he further advised:
"The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for successful life. Don’t fall for that stuff though crowds do."
(This story is adapted from #Letr2Jack on twitter by ©Leke Alder( talk2me@lekealder.com) see the full story and more on JacknJilLive.com)
A young man and his girlfriend walked onto the terrace of a cafe... They were apparently on a date. They seemed culturally intimidated by their context, a tad nervous. (The cafe was upscale).
They were fidgety, like someone afraid of the financial repercussions of a menu.
The cafe was an aspirational challenge for the boy, but you know how we like to impress girls.
The cafe has two menus: a cake and pastry menu, and a light meal menu, you know, burger, chips etc.
The waiter presented both menus to the couple, then withdrew to give space for rumination.
The guy stared at the menu in an important manner. The girl was less confident.
You and I know the guy's mannerism is a responsorial shoring up of self assurance.
He was bravely familiarising with gastronomical depth, not sure he hadn't taken on more than he could chew.
You know how you pray the menu is what you can afford? And your head becomes a calculator and estimator?
And you start praying the girl doesn't get inspired towards certain items on the menu?
You do worst case scenario calculation- possibility of doing without food in order to cover the cost.
Well, the waiter came back to take the order and the young man decided to order on behalf of both of them.
To be fair, the girl didn't seem to have cognitive resonance with the menu.
We'll have fries and chips," the young man ordered with synthetic confidence. The waiter was a bit confused.
The young woman lent support, borrowing nervous confidence from the ether: "Fries for him, chips for me."
The waiter was kindly amused. He politely explained that fries and chips are one and the same. Even I was embarrased.
This is a classic case of not being confident enough to say, "I don't know, I need help!"
There's nothing wrong in asking the waiter questions, seeking guidance. If you don't know, you don't know!
Here were two people pretending to be cultural aficionados, yet both knew they were lying to each other.
He could have managed the date better:
"Hey Molly, I'll like to impress you...want to take you to this cafe. It looks expensive. Never been there before.
If I can't afford the fare we'll do the dishes!" would have been a redemptive starter joke.
"Molly can you make sense of the menu? I can't! Let's ask the waiter!"
"Waiter, what's the most expensive cheap item on this menu a young man can impress a beautiful lady with?"
I'm just saying BE YOURSELF! BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR OWN SKIN!
You can't go through life pretending to be what or who you're not, even emulating false values...
I hear a lot of talk about gaining street cred...Maximum respect!
There's nothing wrong with street cred. It all just depends on which street.
There's Wall Street. There's also Kirikiri Road, you know Sing Sing!
Jesus spoke about street cred: Straight Way vs. Broad Street: “Don’t look for shortcuts..." he said. Then he further advised:
"The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for successful life. Don’t fall for that stuff though crowds do."
(This story is adapted from #Letr2Jack on twitter by ©Leke Alder( talk2me@lekealder.com) see the full story and more on JacknJilLive.com)
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